Hi, I’m Samantha.

I am a sex, dating, and intimacy coach based in Chicago for people who want relationships with more honesty, more pleasure, and considerably less nonsense. Whether you’re navigating the reality of dating on the apps, recovering from heartbreak, building confidence, exploring your sexuality, or trying to create a partnership that actually feels good to live inside— we will work together to uncover the version of you that isn’t performing for approval, but living from conviction.

My background in this work is rooted in a deep study of human behavior, relational dynamics, and the emotional and erotic patterns that shape how we connect. My credentials vary from dedicated formal training and continued study to the real-world complexities of the many lives I’ve lived and roles I have played. The through-line was always my ability to see people at their core and a natural intuition for what they craved.

From working as a farmer, an educator, smoking cessation counselor, bartender, in the wedding industry, in the theater…it was when pursing my MFA that my thesis advisor said I had a PhD in emotional intelligence and that it was worth making something of it. And I did!

To be clear, I am not a matchmaker. My goal will never be oriented around finding another person to complete you, but rather teasing out the deeper qualities you possess and working together to determine the balance of letting those qualities shine and translating that to the world of modern dating and what you are looking for.

As a member of the LGBTQ+ community and someone kink-positive and BDSM-informed—shame has no place in my practice. I bring both rigor and warmth in my approach with every person or couple I work with. Think of me as equal parts strategist, enthusiastic co-conspirator, confidence booster, and loving reality check. Love, sex, relationships—it isn’t something we stumble into by accident; it is something we can learn, practice, and refine. I’d love to be the one to start your journey!